COMMUNICATION is the intercourse of minds and thoughts which sets in motion physical experiences. Take turns watching your partner masturbate and talk about it as you do. Listen to your partner tell you what feels good, how to touch them, and observe.

In later sessions, watch what your partner does and practice on your partner exactly what he or she has shown you. You need to achieve a level of proficiency greater than the self stimulation your partner is able to achieve on his own or her own. Keep practicing until both of you are able to stimulate each other better than each of you can stimulate yourselves. You will want to tell your partner what needs to be done. Tell each other what is happening and how each stroke and touch feels. Make sure you guide your partner's hands, showing firmness, speed, and motion. Enjoy your feelings, and keep your attention in the feelings as you instruct your partner.

Most men feel that they already know how to stimulate their partner. This is far from reality. Most women don't know how to stimulate men and really make them feel good. Chances are that neither of you know much about making the other feel good and both of you know very little about making yourselves reach any level of sustained orgasmic joy. Enjoy watching your partner pleasure themselves. Talk about it while you are doing it and after you are finished. Remember, communication is critical.

LOVING FOREPLAY to make yourselves feel like children. Have fun, enjoy yourselves, laugh, giggle. Some men and women want to rush into sex. To be successful with the ancient wisdom, you must both realize that each of you has to relax and touch the other.

LOOK INTO THE EYES of your partner and touch them -- not just into their physical eye but into the window to their soul. Find your partner inside and there, make a spiritual bond. Practice looking into your partner's eyes and bonding with their spirit.

GENTLY TOUCH THEIR BODY SKIN for all people need to be touched. The area of the skin is vast and by gently touching all the skin of the body, it sets the stage to begin your stimulation of the genital area. Remember, do not rush to stimulate the genital area until your partner is ready.

SHARED STIMULATION begins with both of you lying on your sides, resting on a pillow, and facing each other's genitals. This leaves your hands and arms free to stimulate your partner. The female uses one hand to stimulate the glans and shaft of the male penis, while her other hand pulls the male's scrotum and presses his external (G) spot. The man, in turn, stimulates the female's clitoris with one hand and her labial lips and vagina with the other. DO NOT forget the MERH.

Stimulate each other for thirty to forty minutes and communicate as you do so. Talk to each other about your feelings and tell each other what feels good. This type of stimulation should be practiced at least three to four times weekly. See illustrations A, B and C.