ocr: PAGE 3 COUPLES ANALYSIS ASKING QUESTIONS When asking questions, don't do it in a heavy-handed manner. For example, don't say, "You look as if you might get off on a little mild spanking in bed. 3 Instead, use a more indirect approach, such as: "I get the feeling you might like it ifispanked you very lightly when we make love next time. What do you think?" And if - you are very uncertain about how your partner might react to even such a tentative question, you could precede it by saying, "There's something sexual Ireally want to talk about, but I'm finding it very hard. I'm afraid you might get ...