ocr: - - GUIDELINES W - HEN fantasies, starting it's to - act important out to establish a few guidelines. As you expand your activities the guidelines can be relaxed. In some fantasies, part of the fun is not being in control, but ifyour tantasies become too exureme, you may need a way out. One couple, developing an interest in: mild bondage, drew up some clear guidelines. If either oft them shouted E "No!" they agreed to take Stop!" or no notice. If, however, the partner being dominated said a code word (or "safeword")it meant that all activities should cease immediately.