ocr: consult a counselor. Once the emotional problems in your partnership have been aired and you begin to - feel more positive, start working to rekindle your desire for one another. Lovemaking often becomes less satistactory because the familiar and predictable pattern of your lovemaking starts to make sex seem boring, and the frequency with which you make love decreases. Try to introduce small changes to make your sex life more interesting. And think about how to cultivate emotional and physical intimacy with your partner in ways that don't depend on - sex.