ocr: To : start feeling more positive about your sexuality, try to make your self-pleasuring as enjoyable as possible. Gaining greater familiarity with your sexual responses will improve your lovemaking. Perhaps finding out more about sex generally would help to reassure you about specific fears and anxieties. And don't overlook the fact that finding ways to feel better about yourselfis another important step toward greater sexual tulfillment. It means that you gain the courage to ask for what you want, and also to find out what your partner wants.